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If you want the anniversary of when I first saw the boyfriend, I would have to estimate last summer July 10th or 17th, at a company softball game. He was sweaty and I was aroused.

The first time we actually hung out one on one? August 2nd …lunch. It was the kind of place where you had to get your own utensils. He got sets for both of us; two knives, two forks and one swooning girl. I emailed one of the “Rhymes with An’s” to tell her about it. I was reading into EVERYTHING. The utensils meant he considered us a couple. Obviously.

The first time we spent time together away from the office: August 22nd. We went to play Scrabble at the Getty Center. I made him bet me that the loser would pay for dinner. This was my ploy for more alone time. He beat me by like 500 points. Sadly, that was NOT my ploy. I just suck. So, I took him to dinner. We sat in a dimly lit corner at Paladar (excellent Cuban.) He had mojitos. I noticed a scar on his forehead. “No one notices my scar until after at least six months of knowing me.” BOOYA! I’m an observant bitch. Plus, I couldn’t stop staring at him because he was so goddamn good looking.

That was pretty much all our firsts…NOPE! The first time I kissed him was a year ago today. We were laying on his bed all junior high innocent and we had just decided that we would date. He said “I want to give this a try.” I said “You’re not getting any, if that’s what you’re thinking.” But, I kissed him anyway, no tongue. The first boy I’d kissed in probably four years and the only boy I’ve kissed since. I was me and now I’m part of we.

We laugh, we chat, we hug, we draw, we fight, we wait in line, we eat, we sleep, we learn, we dance, we go to the batting cages, we justify, we explore, we leave notes, we cry, we admire, we take turns, we stare, we check in, we speak français, we greet at the door, we chase, we care, we hold hands, we question, we put on sunscreen, we sing songs, we smile, we gossip, we road trip, we get gas (octane and methane,) we commiserate, we compromise, we grill, we walk, we explain, we notice, we attend each others' events, we tell stories, we buy souvenirs, we veg, we encourage, we make gifts, we got a card from our gay friend in Hawaii because it’s our first anniversary OF DATING (I love my gay friend in Hawaii,) we watch, we listen, we teach, we kiss, we reason, we play catch, we massage, we reflect, we tidy, we comment, we meet planes, we comfort, we giggle, we absorb, we whisper, we evaluate, we surprise, we bake cupcakes (he helps me frost,) we call, we IM, we spoon, we heal, we improve, we agree, we disagree, we try to dunk each other in the pool, we find parking, we love.